Proverbs 18:22- The Book of Wisdom and Instruction
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing
and obtains favor from the LORD”
I want to talk to Men for just a moment…
As a woman, I have given much consideration to this text and I have found it to be profound. You see I have observed men choose “Girlfriends” over and over again for their wives and then heard stories of disappointment and frustration. My Brothers frustration and anger and confusion are all that can arise from such a union because a girlfriend is simply an immature female seeking companionship.
A man that finds a WIFE, not a GIRLFRIEND, finds a good thing!
This text makes clear that every woman is not a wife. If a woman is not a wife than the best that she can be in a relationship with you is a girlfriend. To find something denotes that what you are searching for has great value. A wife is worth more than rubies! It is imperative that you learn how to tell the difference between the two. A girlfriend wants to know what you are going to do for her and a wife wants to know what she can do for you. A girlfriend needs to be instructed and a wife can take instruction. A girlfriend wonders why you are getting so deep when you tell her of your dreams and wife, she listens and watches intently to find out what you dream about. A girlfriend seeks to get! A wife seeks to give, empower, transform, and partner. A wife prays for you, dreams with your fights with you, and stands beside you – She is your Ride or Die! Make no mistake she is strong and possesses a beauty that cannot be interrupted by age. She can love you because she loves and understands Love demands action, while a girlfriend uses the word casually without understanding that accountability is attached to loving. I wife is just that long before she says, “I Do.”
If you are thinking you have never encountered a wife, STOP and think about the sister who helped you with a goal, the woman who was into you with no games but you could not commit, who made you believe that you could do it, who cooked for you, made love to you passionately and purposely, and cared for you – that was a wife. Most likely you continued to take from her as you took her for granted and mishandled her kindness on the way to your girlfriend. My Brothers a man who finds a wife finds a good thing because she seeks to be a blessing in your life.
I beseech you my beautiful, strong, and magnificent Brothers that the next time you encounter a wife in a relationship, that you value her because she brings favor to your life from our Creator. Thus the Wife is the prize…not the girlfriend!