Like many people, I tuned in to see Oprah Winfrey sign off from her long running talk show. During that eventful week she shared with her audience pearls of wisdom that she gained throughout her life, she put them all in a book called What I Know for Sure. Of course Miss Winfrey started a trend that ask the question, “What do you know for sure?”
At my age, I have learned that what I thought I knew for sure when I was a teen, in my 20’s and 30’s, was based on nothing but a lack of experience, love, and pain, or sorrow – Living. After doing what my mother use to say, “Live a little longer Baby and you see things differently.” I have been living, sometimes carelessly and other times courageously. Today I can say with measured confidence (I am not to make some adjustments) about what I know for sure.
My mother use to tell me that you do not have to reinvent the wheel, adding that it would behoove you to learn from other’s mistakes, with that being said I would like to share with you the Ten Things I Know For Sure:
When people tell you how they are, believe them. (I have come into the knowledge that Maya Angelou said that so since she is older than my mother I will also credit her with that lesson.) Why do we tend to act so surprised when someone does something to us that may cause us pause or hurt us? If we were paying attention they already told us through their actions, words, or even behaviors who they are and who they have the potential to be. We get stung when we do not believe them.
What goes around comes around Karma. In the church we say, “You will reap what you sow.” I do not think I need to expound on that.
Trust your instincts, especially women; they are given to us to help protect us. Often times before something happens to us we get a “feeling” that is our instinct kicking in, we must learn to trust it and even look for it. I believe it is God’s whisper to us.
If you have to figure out how a man/woman you are seeing feels about you, they are not that into you. Got It!!!!
Healthy Love brings Joy.Where does the origins of love hurts come from? That is Crap! Love does not hurt. Selfishness hurts and people who do not mean you well or do not have your best interest at heart hurt you but let’s leave Love out of that description.
God Loves Me. I was a child of faith who has grown to become a woman of faith. As simple as this may sound to some. I know God loves Me because God has shown me over and over again.
Everyday is a brand new day to start over again. The thing about tomorrow is that it is a clean slate. When I was leaving my first marriage (a very abusive one) a woman that was helping me move stopped me from taking the broom with me. When I asked her why she said, “Do not bring yesterdays dirt onto your new and clean floor.” I left broom and walked into my new clean beginning.
Learn to Love, Cherish, and Care about the person you see in the mirror Love yourself. We may not be perfect and that is not the point, but we are special. God created each and every one of us and wants us to be well. We cannot become our greatest self if we do not take care of ourselves. Ladies and Gentleman, place the Oxygen Mask on your face first before placing on others. That oxygen is learning love ourselves.
No one has it all together. We all are struggling with something.
Spend time with God daily. Get quite! Find a quiet space or place where you have the greatest chance of drowning life’s noises out. You can pray, which is simply having a conversation with God. You can journal. You can do whatever it is that allows you to relax and center. It is in that space where you can be with our Creator.